This is a great article: “Confessions of a Teenage Bride: Modest is not Hottest”
I share it with you because I’ve noticed what she’s talking about. Her words correctly identify a long standing lie which targets women. It insists that they ‘must be sexy to be loved and treasured.’
Sisters, if you live under this belief then the only men you’ll ever attract are dirt bags–men who just want your body. Brothers, if you perpetuate this lie by womanizing, brazenly lusting and treating women like objects, instead of people, then all you’ll get is a truly shallow woman.
Now, I’m obviously not a woman, but I can recognize how this lie would be somewhat irresistible and believable. After all, culture screams it at us to the point of hyperventilation. Have you noticed? It’s plastered on billboards, in magazines, TV shows, movies, and all over the internet (just consider the multi-billion dollar porn industry). Countless images of photoshoped beauties calling women ugly and not good enough are everywhere. Consistently, culture gives women the impression that they must stop at no cost to be sexy, otherwise, they’ll never feel loved or have any value. Most women can’t measure up to that standard, and therefore, are driven to eating disorders and some even to suicide. The lie is truly insidious and demonic!
Now, there is nothing wrong with women wanting to be attractive or a man being attracted to a woman. Despite what culture says, I think that’s the natural way God has wired us. Beauty is an amazing thing to be celebrated! Creation is filled with God’s beauty and Eve is the climax of his masterpiece. Unfortunately, we live in a sinful world in which beauty is now corrupted. Our appreciation for beauty is now forestalled by sinful attempts to worship it, objectify it or use it as a means to an end apart from God.
Ladies, you are worth far more to your creator than just a well ordered arrangement of body parts. Resist the lies of culture that tell you otherwise! Aim for this instead: “Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God,” (1 Peter 3:1-7).
Yes, beauty is good, but Godliness makes it truly extravagant!